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My Fiance May Have a Sexual, Nude Photo AddictionTue, Jul 27th 2010
Our second year of dating he was left alone with my best friend and her boyfriend's computer, not long after I discovered a secret email account he had created to email himself nude photos of my best friend stolen from their computer. I found this because he was stupid and left the password saved on my computer so when I went to log into my own email I was already in his secret account. I confronted him, and proceeded to break up with him, but he begged and promised, so we remained. As part of our rehabilitation as a couple, I asked him to produce any other pornographic images hidden in either my or his computer. And he did willingly. I admitted that my concern wasn't idle use of internet derived pornographic images from such intended websites, but the fact that he stole images from our friends and used them for his own sexual needs. Of course promises poured forth.
Over time he began to blame me for the need of such images and his desire for my friend, by stating I was overweight, unattractive, and our sex life was unsatisfactory. Always afterward he would apologize and make a strong effort to save our relationship. We began planning our wedding when I thought this had been put behind us. My friend had been made aware of the past incident, and all had been forgiven as childish behavior on his part.
Concerned for me and unknown to me, my friend retrieved from his computer images well hidden. These folders consisted of images of her and her same boyfriend in sexual context, many very recent. Even images and videos of her boyfriend alone sexually posed. Images of porn from the internet, etc. And finally, lingerie images he stole from my cousin's computer when we house sat while she went away on her honeymoon. My friend hadn't reported the discovery to me until recently. During this time, he and I fought constantly over my jealousy, lack of self-esteem, depression symptoms, and depression treatment. His stance consisted of being unable to cope with my mental illness. We broke up, but remain living together due to lease and financial obligations.
My friend reported the discovery to me last night. He still lives with me. His secretive and reclusive behavior makes sense after this discovery. His inability to trust me, and to communicate also makes sense. I cannot understand his need to steal images of our friends and my family for his own sexual desires. In addition, there were photos of his exposing himself in different situations when we were all together, unknown to any of us.
I am concerned that this is beyond a strong sexual desire for pornographic images. I don't know if this is all used for masturbation, but many images show artistic rendering and collages of nudity he made. Is it an obsession with nudity and the thrill of stealing? We are no longer romantically or intimately involved, but I am concerned for him since I care about him still. He needs help.
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